I disagree. There's nothing like a long passionate smooch with all four eyes open delving deeply into each other. (One pair, I mean, delving deeply into the other pair, not each eye delving into each of the other three. Love is cock-eyed but that would be overdoing it.)
I guess I'm just basically atyphlobasical.
Then again, ever kiss someone and catch them watching TV? A real morale booster, there! If it's "Masterpiece Theatre," the relationship may be salvagable. Of course, if it's "Gilligan's Island," you can pretty much consider yourself halfway out the door.
forepleasure – perhaps somewhat richer than foreplay, which usually refers to physical contacts, especially kissing and fondling. Forepleasure by no means excludes those, but it also includes such things as listening to music, reading poems or stories that stimulate affectionate responses, recalling earlier experiences, and even just quietly enjoying togetherness.
What a lovely concept. Special thanks to J.H. Hook, whose book The Grand Panjandrum I have quoted here.
quote:Originally posted by wordcrafter: _noeclexis_ - The practice of selecting a partner based on intellegence and character without regard for physical attractiveness
This suggests a future wordcrafter theme to me - words that describe concepts that exist only in theory not in the real world.
No, Shoo. It is just my theory that men care much more about the looks of women than women do about men. I might even go so far to say it is a fact (yes, Tinman, you will not agree, I know). Excellent data for the latter is to look at television programs (in the U.S.); the men are frequently quite out of shape, rather plain looking, beginning to age, etc. Women, on the other hand, are gorgeous, young, and with perfect figures.
When I was a teenager and, like most young male teenagers, was spending a substantial amount of my time in trying to persuade teenage girls to share my bed (or probably the back seat of my car) we had a name for those girls who promised a great deal but delivered less than expected.
And it was not "Sphallolalia"!
Richard English
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limerance - the inital exhilarating rush of falling in love; the state of "being in love".
Limerance, unlike 'infatuation', does not carry the connotation of emotional immaturity. In contrast to "loving someone", limerance implies obsessive thinking about the limerent object and acute longing for reciprocation.
Coined by Dorothy Tennov in her book Love and Limerance (1979; recently reprinted). It will be interesting to see if this word enters the vernacular.
Edited: You're right, CJ; I'd typoed.
[This message was edited by wordcrafter on Sun Feb 16th, 2003 at 8:06.]
quote:Originally posted by Kalleh: ...men care _much_ more about the looks of women than women do about men.
In general, yes, but not universally. I have been noeclexotic most of my adult life. Some of the most gorgeous women I've ever been deeply in love with possessed great quantities of beauty that no camera could ever capture.
(My 555th post! I'm five sixths Satanic and rising!)
(Ever notice that our post totals are shown every time we contribute to this section but not in the others? No biggie, just an observation.)
CJ, no I have never noticed that the number of posts only show in this forum. Strange! And, noticing that now (for the first time), I have to congratulate Asa for reaching your 500th post!
As far as my comment about men preferring looks over women, I realize that it is a generalization, and those are dangerous. Of course, it's not always the case. I do think that men consider looks more than women do, though, when dating.
So, if one is fortunate enough to be experiencing limerance (mature or otherwise), can one be said to be "limerant?" or perhaps "limerantic?" or even "limerable?"
And, noticing that now (for the first time), I have to congratulate Asa for reaching your 500th post! 
